To be seen to care is to be seen as weak

Image by Adam63 on Wikimedia Commons
Image by Adam63 on Wikimedia Commons

Yesterday I read a post by TDYLN about an elderly man who accidentally wet himself on the bus to then be ridiculed and laughed at by the other passengers when he got off.

It makes me sad to read this but I’m not shocked. When people see bad things happen to other people they can’t help but be happy that it didn’t happen to them. I also believe that people think that to show one’s compassion can be seen as a sign of weakness to others. How bananas is that? To be seen to care is to be seen as weak.

I believe that everyone is compassionate, at least to some degree. It’s unfortunate that people, although they feel bad won’t react unless it directly affects them (like if someone close to them needs help). The truth of the matter is that not everybody has someone close to them to show them compassion.

No matter who needs help for whatever reason, if we can help them we should, even if this means giving them the respect to not laugh at their misfortune. This won’t happen overnight and I don’t think that it’s possible to encourage people to be more compassionate towards their fellow human beings unless they want to.

When I get angry, I laugh

seagullI used to be curmudgeon. I would get irritated and angry at the littlest things and I wasn’t fun to be around.

All these years later, it feels alien to me and now my anger manifests itself differently than I used to.


Stressed? Have a dance!

"Modern morris dance" by Hassan2r - Own work. Licensed under Creative Commons Attribution-Share Alike 3.0 via Wikimedia Commons
“Modern morris dance” by Hassan2r – Own work. Licensed under Creative Commons Attribution-Share Alike 3.0 via Wikimedia Commons

This might sound a bit silly but it’s worth trying. Next time you’re feeling a bit fed up or down, crank up some feel good music and have a dance (and a sing perhaps?)

It may take some effort and possibly more than one song but as soon as you start shaking your money-maker you’ll notice that you’re starting to feel better. This is for a number of reasons:

1. Dancing releases endorphins
It has been proven that any physical activity will result in a release of endorphins which will make you feel happier.

2. It’s a distraction
I know that I have said before that distractions aren’t good but sometimes it’s good to be able to take your mind off something, even if it is for a few moments.

Seriously, next time you’ve got nothing better to do, stick on some music and have a dance!


Life Isn’t That Serious

There are times when I have to stand back and look at a situation and laugh at how ridiculous it is. People take life too seriously some times and it’s very comical.


It’s easy to take life too seriously. We get swept away with what’s happening to notice how silly things are. I remind myself (and often other people) that they’re taking life too seriously by asking a question.

“And then what?”
For example let’s say that you needed to get something finished but were unable to due to reasons out of your control. Ask yourself “and then what?”… What is the response. You don’t meet a target? You don’t get a bonus? Ask yourself again “And then what?” We soon find see that most of the things we fret about are not life and death situations.

Having said all of this, if you do deal with life and death situations, I recommend that you disregard my advice here. Although if you deal with life and death situations, you already knew that!

We should all think about how lucky we are. We have food to eat and a place to sleep at night. Really, what else do we need in life?

The Overcomplication Of Stuff

IMG_20140716_115930It’s very easy to over-think things, especially in the current culture we live in but are we making things overly complicated?

Recently I thought so hard about a sudoku I gave myself a headache.

Thinkerist, ponderer and nice guy.